The Hidden Culture of Bullying

Bullying in the funeral industry takes many forms. It happens within funeral homes, between colleagues and management, and it extends into online spaces like Facebook groups and Reddit forums where professionals congregate. While workplace bullying is not unique to this field, the close-knit and often secretive nature of the funeral industry makes it particularly insidious.

From gossip and character assassination to professional gatekeeping and outright harassment, the industry has a long history of ostracizing those who challenge the status quo. Women, in particular, often face additional barriers, as the field has been traditionally male-dominated. Innovators who introduce new methods or advocate for alternative funeral practices—such as green burial or transparency in death care—can become prime targets for smear campaigns and exclusion.

The Impact of Social Media Attacks

In today’s digital age, bullying has transcended the workplace and entered the online realm. Funeral director groups on Facebook, as well as anonymous Reddit threads, have become breeding grounds for negativity. Those who speak out against unethical practices or question industry norms can find themselves ridiculed, defamed, or even blacklisted.

For example, I have personally experienced targeted harassment in professional forums and social media spaces where funeral professionals gather. Individuals have taken to Reddit and Facebook groups to spread misinformation, creating a hostile environment for those who advocate for ethical and sustainable practices. Rather than fostering constructive debate and professional growth, these platforms are often used to intimidate and silence dissenting voices.

The Toll on Mental Health and Careers

The consequences of bullying within the funeral industry are severe. Many who endure harassment suffer from anxiety, depression, and PTSD. Some are forced out of jobs, unable to find work due to industry-wide blacklisting. Others continue to work in toxic environments, fearing retaliation if they speak up. The emotional burden of navigating an already emotionally heavy profession becomes unbearable for many.

Moreover, when industry professionals turn against one another, it not only harms individuals but also weakens the overall integrity of funeral service. If the goal is to support grieving families, then infighting and hostility among professionals only serve to create a fractured and toxic environment.

Fighting Back: Advocating for Change

Addressing workplace bullying in the funeral industry starts with acknowledging that it exists. Silence and denial allow toxicity to fester. Industry leaders, professional organizations, and educational institutions must take a stand against harassment and discrimination.

What Can Be Done?

• Stronger Workplace Policies: Funeral homes should implement clear anti-bullying policies with enforceable consequences.
• Industry Accountability: Professional organizations should monitor and address harassment in both real-life and online spaces.
• Mental Health Support: Access to counseling and peer support networks can help professionals cope with the emotional toll of workplace bullying.
• Whistleblower Protection: Those who speak out against unethical practices should be protected, not punished.
• Creating a Culture of Respect: Encouraging open, professional dialogue rather than online attacks fosters a more ethical and supportive industry.

The funeral industry is built on the premise of caring for others in their most vulnerable moments. If we cannot show the same respect and care for our colleagues, how can we expect to serve grieving families with integrity? It is time to shed light on this silent crisis and demand change from within.