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The latest on the Modern Mortician, aka Melissa Meadow; A Response to the defamatory and false thread on Reddit

My name is Melissa Meadow, I am The Modern Mortician.  I am a consumer advocate and eco-funeral educator,  a self proclaimed whistleblower. I have worked in the funeral industry since 1999 and had a social media presence since 2016 as The Modern Mortician. Kermit the Dog is my sidekick.


In October of 2023, a Reddit thread was posted about me in the r/askfuneraldirectors forum with some incredibly incorrect, exaggerated, and defamatory information in it.


I was unable to respond to all of the accusations before the thread went Archived.  It took six months of therapy to be able to talk about what happened to me over the last 2+ years, and when I was ready to address what I had not, I could not.


I was able to reference the original thread, and I would like to address it now.


First, I just want to bring to light, it is awful suspicious the amount of brand new accounts created the same day the post was made. Significant_Crow5054, ValCurie, CremationCreations, Additional_Good_2803, among others, all giving their "first hand" experiences with me to embellish the story. 


u/beneficent_don and Boxandbury are coworkers for a business that I have publicly questioned about greenwashing.  Boxandbury and I were friends at one point, though I now know it was not a mutual friendship looking back, and my behavior during a mental health episode awarded me an anti-harassment order for 1 year, which ended November 2023. This individual would take a verbal assault via voice memo, and manipulate the scene into something far bigger than it should have been, contacting my employer and being the reason that employer gave Unemployment for terminating me. Suspiciously after I had reported to the state licensing board about misconduct (cremating bodies on broken down amazon boxes) for which this employer got a slap on the wrist and I became enemy #1.


The first accusation u/beneficent_don levies is “Bet it sloshed.” There was NO WAY I was going to address this initially until I had contact with the mother in question and apologized privately. What I said is between me and her. Despite what I am about to explain, I took full responsibility and apologized genuinely. This was completed in November of 2023. Now- I don’t believe that was my account that left that comment. I initially thought, if this was me, I must have thought I was on the account of one of the gravediggers I follow. There’s absolutely NO WAY I would intentionally say something that vile to a grieving mother. Looking back at a sreen shot of the post, it does not show the @, only the typed in name The Modern Mortician. The profile photo used is not a profile picture I have ever used on tiktok, I have only featured it in my instagram feed and my website. I do not have any other explanation. 


Next up, former coworker Steidler. For those of you who have followed my instagram, you may have seen him when I first moved to Seattle. He and I bonded over the stress that our manager put us through. We had an agreement that I would meet families for him, if he would focus on being the embalmer. He wanted to work Back of House. I wanted to work Front of House. It was a win win, though it did not take long for our piss poor management to push back. I NEVER took credit for Steidler’s work. I have always been a team player and would praise him often in morning meetings when he had worked on a client family of mine. Oh, yes, as accused, I wore a skeleton onesie over clothes in the winter to the funeral home when I was off work and it was closed to the public. I lived a few blocks away and would be the go to person if something needed to be tended to off hours. Claims I avoided work hiding out… I did not hide in the crematory, or anywhere else for that matter. Kermit hated it there, it was hot and loud, and I would not hang out with my dog somewhere he wasn’t comfortable. On the one Saturday Funeral where I failed to order a casket spray., I DID order it, the awful part is I didn’t get the sheet from the FAX MACHINE that said Completed. I faxed the order in. even called about what they wanted while in the arrangement conference. But because I failed to confirm the fax went through, I fully accept my fuck up. I panicked, and I got angry when I felt like Sawyer had thrown me under the bus. Had he been in my shoes, I would have called him to collab to correct the error before involving management, which wasn’t on site anyway.


There were some really toxic things said about my mental health. I had a breakdown for which I was hospitalized in August of 2023. After months of therapy, psych appts, gene tests, doctor and specialist visits, we finally found medication that works, and began treatment for my CPTSD. 


Someone made the comment “There’s a reason she’s worked at no less than 7 different firms since she left Texas.” Excuse me, where? At the time of this post and even now, I worked for 1, 2 , 3. King County, Pierce County, and Pacific County. Yes, I absolutely let my dog run the trails through cemeteries.  We have done that since he was a pup and needed to run faster than my fat ass. I don’t think it’s funny, I usually laughed because he brings me joy. 


Did I get a felony charge in 2023? Yes. I had a terrible court appointed atty, that kept waiving speedy trial, while charges against me changed from Theft of a Casket by misdelivery, to 13 counts of Identity Theft- one for each time the business credit card had been used WHILE employed, and accidently AFTER employment. I wasn't given the opportunity to defend myself. I was in the midst of a mental health crisis, just coming out of inpatient treatment and being smacked with more legal abuse, I was coerced into signing a plea deal for ONE (not 13) count of identity theft.  My court appointed idiot atty pulled me into a courthouse back office and told me this deal was all he would do, after dragging me out for months to believe he was actually researching and preparing for my case. I have a witness to this incident, a retired lawyer who accompanied me as a friend and support person. She heard me say through tears that “This is not what happened, I didn’t do this”. I didn’t understand what was happening in the court room when the judge ordered 20 days in county jail, and when asked by the judge if I had any comment, my babbling should have been enough to alert anyone with half a sense that I was not coherent and not ok. Shits done, and it’ll be on my record for at least another year and a half before I can apply to expunge it. And I will. I wasn't in the right mind to defend myself then, but I will tell everyone my side of the story now. Our justice system is flawed and weighted against the poor.


It is said I have three with Anti Harassment orders against me currently…. I am not ready to talk about the abuse I endured at the hands of those 3 individuals. When in court on this incident, I did NOT contest the anti-harassment, and openly told the entire courtroom I didn’t want to be anywhere near them, and I accepted it as is. They didn’t win because of evidence of anything. In fact, I could have presented evidence that countered every accusation they put down under penalty of perjury, but I was not well. I did not have the ability to do what I am able to do now after some time to heal. Trauma is trauma. These individuals have claimed animal abuse, but this is not true. Anyone who knows me, knows of my love for animals, especially Kermit. I have recently been awarded a protection order against the leader of this group, in fact, Tuesday, June 25, 2024, so it will be in effect for a solid year. Prior to that, I had to get one against an employee of the funeral home that made accusations about me, after this individual FOLLOWED me into a store, made a scene, and assaulted me verbally outside. That order just expired June 5, 2024. She had the sense to stop using her name to harass me online. Someone still makes it a point to email anyone I collab with or have worked with to discredit me by sharing the Reddit post. I attempted to post this essay on Reddit June 27, 2024.  It was brutally downvoted, and by morning, it had been deleted by the mods.  I am being silenced.


There you go. My side of the story. 

I am a whistleblower.  I am an advocate.  I will not be silenced.





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November 6, 2025
New Hampshire In New Hampshire, the land itself tells a story of endurance, granite ledges, maple forests, and quiet fields that have held generations of families. It’s no surprise that many here are drawn to green burial, a practice that reflects the state’s independent spirit and deep respect for nature. Whether resting beneath sugar maples in autumn or beside a field of mountain laurel, natural burial connects people to the same landscape they cherished in life. It’s a simple, sincere return to the elements, free from chemicals, vaults, and excess, where the body nourishes the land, and the land, in turn, offers peace. 🌿Lotus and Lavender Natural Burial (in progress) - Portsmouth, NH Nestled in the heart of New Hampshire’s Seacoast region, Lotus & Lavender Natural Burial is leading the charge toward a more peaceful, eco-conscious way of returning to the earth. As a 501(c)(13) nonprofit cemetery organization, they are dedicated to creating a true natural burial ground, one where the cycle of life continues uninterrupted, and the land remains protected for generations to come. They’re cur rently looking for land to establish this sanctuary and are inviting the community to be part of this next step. Here’s what they need to get started: 🌾 At least 3 acres in a rural or semi-rural setting ☀️ Mostly cleared land is ideal 📍 Within 30 minutes of Portsmouth (preferred) 💧 No wetlands within 100 ft A gift, sale, or long-term lease of lan d to Lotus & Lavender comes with many benefits, including contributing to a legacy of conservation and community service. All discussions are confidential and handled with care. If you or someone you know has land that might be a fit, reach out and help make New Hampshire’s next natural burial ground a reality. 🌸 If there isn’t a green burial ground nearby, many of New Hampshire’s small-town or church cemeteries are open to dialogue about becoming “hybrid.” Start by speaking with cemetery trustees or the town’s selectboard to ask if bylaws allow for vault waivers or biodegradable caskets. Offer to share examples from nearby states or from local conservation groups that have helped establish natural sections. New Hampshire’s strong tradition of local control means community support carries weight, gathering signatures or hosting an informational session can show genuine public interest. With respectful collaboration, even long-established cemeteries can evolve to honor both tradition and the environment that defines the Granite State. If you want information on how to start your own natural burial cemetery, or you want to make me aware of another green, natural, or hybrid cemetery in this state, please reach out!
November 6, 2025
Oklahoma 🌿Green Tree Burial Ground - Mead, OK 🌿Green Haven Cemetery - Stillwater, OK If you want information on how to start your own natural burial cemetery, or you want to make me aware of another green, natural, or hybrid cemetery in this state, please reach out!
November 6, 2025
Missouri Missouri’s rolling hills, oak forests, and winding rivers have long reflected the rhythm of renewal. Here, green burial feels like a homecoming, simple, grounded, and full of meaning. Families across the state are rediscovering that death care can be both traditional and natural, honoring loved ones without the need for embalming, vaults, or excess. From the Ozark highlands to the fertile plains of the north, Missourians are choosing to return to the earth just as their ancestors did, wrapped in cloth, laid beneath trees, and surrounded by life. It’s a quiet act of love, rooted in the soil that has always sustained them. 🌿Green Acres Natural Burial Cemetery - Rocheport, MO In Missouri, Green Acres, also known as Pushing Up Daisies Inc., was created to give families “the ultimate way of going green.” As a natural burial ground, the cemetery allows only biodegradable materials: no embalming, no metal, no plastic, and no concrete vaults. Its mission is clear, protect the land, air, and water while providing affordable, compassionate burial options. Green Acres was founded on the belief that traditional funerals are often too expensive and environmentally harmful. Here, families can choose natural burial at a fraction of the cost of conventional practices, with flexible payment options and straightforward care. Everything at Green Acres is designed to preserve the earth: graves must use biodegradable containers or shrouds, vaults and liners are prohibited, and only natural flat rocks can be used as markers. The cemetery maintains full stewardship of the grounds, ensuring trails, plantings, and burials blend into the landscape. By choosing Green Acres, families eliminate confusion about their wishes, avoid unnecessary costs, and leave a final act of care for the planet. It’s not just a resting place, it’s a statement of responsibility and love. For Missouri, Green Acres stands as a beacon of what’s possible: an active, dedicated natural burial ground where remembrance and conservation walk hand in hand. 🌿Bellfontaine Cemetery & Arboretum (hybrid) - St. Louis, MO Green burial is permitted throughout all of Bellefontaine Cemetery, whether on a new or existing family lot, or a single grave in a public lot. Individuals can choose to mix green burial options with traditional burial practices to meet specific wishes and desires. For example, one may choose to be un-embalmed, in a shroud, biodegradable, is slower in its return to the earth than a shroud or simple casket. 🌿Zion Cemetery (hybrid) - St. Louis, MO At Zion Cemetery, we take great pride in being one of the few Green Burial Council certified cemeteries in St. Louis. Our commitment to sustainability and environmental preservation sets us apart, providing a meaningful alternative to traditional burial methods. By choosing a green burial at Zion Cemetery, you contribute to a more eco-friendly and natural end-of-life process, leaving a lasting legacy of care for our planet. If your community doesn’t yet have a designated green burial ground, start by reaching out to local cemetery caretakers or boards to discuss creating a natural or hybrid section. Missouri’s agricultural roots make this concept easy to embrace, land stewardship is part of the culture. Ask about existing requirements for vaults or embalming; many small-town cemeteries can amend bylaws with community support. Share examples of successful hybrid models across the Midwest and resources from the Green Burial Council. By working together, you can help transform traditional cemeteries into sanctuaries that celebrate Missouri’s connection to nature and the cycle of life. If you want information on how to start your own natural burial cemetery, or you want to make me aware of another green, natural, or hybrid cemetery in this state, please reach out!
November 6, 2025
Montana In Montana, the land feels limitless, mountains rise into the clouds, rivers carve through valleys, and the horizon seems to stretch forever. It’s a place where life and nature are inseparable, and where many Montanans are rediscovering burial traditions that reflect that harmony. Green burial here offers a quiet, grounded return to the earth, without the intrusion of chemicals or concrete. Each natural burial restores life to the land, echoing the rugged simplicity and reverence for nature that defines the Big Sky State. Whether in prairie grasslands or pine forests, Montana’s open spaces remind us that returning to the soil is the most natural act of all. 🌿Mountainview Cemetery (hybrid) - City of Billings, Billings, MT Available in Mountview Cemetery selectively. It's not much, but it's a start. If your community doesn’t yet have a natural burial ground, start by speaking with caretakers or local cemetery boards about adding a “green section.” Montana’s vast landscapes and rural culture make this especially practical, no vaults or heavy maintenance are needed. Ask about existing bylaws regarding vaults or embalming; many can be amended through board approval. Offer examples of hybrid cemeteries in similar climates across the West to demonstrate how simple policy changes can create eco-friendly options. By encouraging dialogue and sharing resources from the Green Burial Council, you can help Montana cemeteries evolve their practices to honor the land’s natural beauty while preserving it for generations to come. If you want information on how to start your own natural burial cemetery, or you want to make me aware of another green, natural, or hybrid cemetery in this state, please reach out!
November 6, 2025
Nevada 🌿 If you want information on how to start your own natural burial cemetery, or you want to make me aware of another green, natural, or hybrid cemetery in this state, please reach out!
November 6, 2025
New Jersey Known as the Garden State, New Jersey has always held a deep reverence for its landscapes, rolling farmlands, pine forests, and coastal meadows. Green burial here feels like a return to the state’s original promise: harmony between people and place. As urban and suburban communities seek more meaningful, sustainable ways to honor life’s end, natural burial is quietly taking root. Families are rediscovering that simplicity, no embalming, no vaults, no polished metal, can be profoundly beautiful. Whether in the hills of Hunterdon County or near the salt air of the Shore, New Jersey’s green burial movement is reminding families that true peace lies in returning gently to the earth. 🌿Steelmantown Cemetery - Woodbine, NJ Tucked in the Pine Barrens of Cape May County, Steelmantown Cemetery is one of the oldest continually operating natural burial grounds in the country. With burials dating back to the 1700s, this sacred woodland has been restored as a conservation cemetery, where the forest itself is both sanctuary and memorial. Steelmantown permits only biodegradable caskets or shrouds, no embalming, and no vaults or liners. Graves are dug by hand, and families are invited to take part in the process of lowering and covering their loved one, adding to the intimacy and meaning of the farewell. Markers are natural and modest, often simple wooden or stone pieces that allow the forest to remain the focus. Over time, each resting place blends back into the landscape, supporting the ecological health of the Pine Barrens. Once nearly abandoned, Steelmantown was lovingly restored to preserve its heritage and to create a model for how burial grounds can also serve as conservation spaces. Today, it stands as a testament to both history and sustainability, offering New Jersey families a natural way to return to the earth.  🌿Rosemont Cemetery (hybrid) - Rosemont, NJ The Rosemont Cemetery Association is committed to providing quality end of life choices to meet the needs of all in the community it serves while enhancing the Cemetery’s natural beauty and heritage. As such, in addition to providing traditional burial spaces, on Earth Day 2017, the Cemetery unveiled its newest section, the Rosemont Memorial Garden and Natural Burial Area. This opening represents the culmination of years of work to create a meaningful, well-thought out area where those wishing to lessen the environmental impact of burial can choose to rest. Much thought was put into the design of the Rosemont Memorial Garden and Natural Burial Area, which sits at the bottom of the hill, bordered on one side by beautiful woodlands and on another side by a farm field. The concept of this burial area is to provide a peaceful place for loved ones to visit and that is inviting to the community; to those that have loved ones buried here, as well as to those that simply want to find a space of peaceful quiet reflection. The graves in the Memorial Garden are laid out in a series of concentric circles, with the circles representing the circle of life and the community that surrounds the Cemetery. This design concept represents a paradigm shift from the traditional rectangular grave layouts to a more natural layout. To bring natural burial options to your area, start by opening a conversation with local cemetery trustees or sextons. Many New Jersey cemeteries, even historic ones, are finding ways to adapt by offering hybrid sections that allow biodegradable caskets and vault-free burials. Share examples such as Steelmantown Cemetery or Maryrest Cemetery’s natural section to illustrate how successful these integrations can be. Emphasize that adding green options doesn’t require an overhaul, just flexibility in policy and a willingness to meet changing family values. Suggest hosting a community talk or workshop to gauge interest and show that offering green burial isn’t just an environmental choice, it’s an act of stewardship and renewal in the Garden State. If you want information on how to start your own natural burial cemetery, or you want to make me aware of another green, natural, or hybrid cemetery in this state, please reach out!
November 6, 2025
New Mexico In New Mexico, where the vast sky meets mesas painted in red and gold, death is seen not as an ending but as a return. The desert has always been a place of stillness, ceremony, and transformation—and green burial fits naturally within that rhythm. Here, simplicity carries deep spiritual resonance. Families choosing natural burial find meaning in allowing the body to return to the earth without barriers, nourishing the same land that sustained generations before them. From the high desert to the mountain foothills, green burial in New Mexico honors the harmony between human life and the timeless landscape that holds it. 🌿La Puerta Natural Burial Grounds - Belen, NM Just outside Belen, New Mexico, lies La Puerta Natural Burial Ground, the s tate’s first and only conservation burial cemetery. Tucked within nearly 40 acres of desert landscape, this site offers families the chance to return their loved ones to the earth in a way that is both simple and sustainable. La Puerta requires no embalming, no vaults, and only biodegradable burial containers. Graves are hand-dug, and natural markers like local stones are used so that over time, the land remains undisturbed and wild. Families may take part in the burial process, making the farewell deeply personal. Each burial helps conserve the fragile high desert ecosystem, ensuring that native plants and wildlife thrive. This is burial that doesn’t just avoid harm, but actively contributes to land protection and ecological health. For families in New Mexico, La Puerta represents a return to older traditions, burial that is straightforward, affordable, and connected to place. Here, loved ones are laid to rest beneath open skies and mesas, becoming part of the desert’s living cycle. If your community doesn’t yet have a green burial ground, begin by reaching out to caretakers or boards of existing cemeteries. Many traditional cemeteries are open to dedicating a section for natural burials once they understand the process and benefits. Share examples of desert-friendly practices such as using local stone markers, drought-tolerant native plants, and biodegradable materials suited for arid climates. Present the ecological and cultural value, reducing concrete use, preserving water, and respecting Indigenous understandings of the land. By working collaboratively, you can help transform existing cemeteries into places that both honor tradition and embrace New Mexico’s enduring connection to the natural world, If you want information on how to start your own natural burial cemetery, or you want to make me aware of another green, natural, or hybrid cemetery in this state, please reach out!
November 6, 2025
New York New York’s green burial movement is thriving at the intersection of nature and innovation. From the Adirondacks’ quiet forests to the rolling Hudson Valley and the protected lands of Long Island, New Yorkers are embracing burial practices that restore balance to the earth. In a state known for progress and preservation alike, natural burial offers a meaningful way to unite tradition with environmental responsibility. Families are choosing biodegradable materials, native plant restoration, and conservation land trusts to ensure that even in death, they contribute to life’s continual renewal. Each burial becomes both a personal act of remembrance and a collective gesture toward a greener future. 🌿Greensprings Cemetery - Newfield, NY High above Cayuga Lake in Newfield, Greensprings Natural Cemetery Preserve stretches across 130 acres of rolling meadows, forest, and sky, one of the most scenic and pioneering green cemeteries in the United States. Founded in 2006, it was among the first to earn Green Burial Council certification, setting the standard for natural burial in the Northeast. At Greensprings, there are no vaults, no embalming, and no polished headstones. Burials use biodegradable shrouds or simple wooden caskets, allowing each person to return fully to the soil. Native grasses and wildflowers slowly reclaim each grave, weaving every life back into the ecology of the land. Every burial at Greensprings supports permanent land protection. The preserve’s mission is to restore and maintain natural habitats while offering an environmentally conscious resting place. Visitors walk along mown trails and open fields, where meadowlarks and pollinators thrive. Greensprings welcomes people of all faiths and backgrounds. Families are invited to participate in burials, from carrying the body to lowering it into the grave, creating a deeply personal experience rooted in love and connection. 🌿Spirit Sanctuary Green Burials - Essex, NY Nestled in the hills of the Hudson Valley, Spirit Sanctuary in natural Rhinebeck is New York’s first conservation burial ground, a sacred space where the end of life becomes an act of environmental restoration. Developed in partnership with the Conservation Burial Alliance and the New York Open Center , Spirit Sanctuary blends ecology, spirituality, and simplicity. Every burial here supports land conservation. No vaults, embalming, or metal caskets are allowed, only biodegradable materials that return the body to the soil. As the forest floor reclaims each grave, it becomes part of a larger ecosystem that nourishes new growth. Spirit Sanctuary is open to all faiths and backgrounds, rooted in the belief that death can be approached with reverence and ecological awareness. Families may participate in every step of the burial, creating a communal, healing experience grounded in love and respect. Each interment at Spirit Sanctuary contributes to protecting Rhinebeck’s natural habitat, ensuring that the land remains untouched by development. The sanctuary represents a modern evolution of ancient traditions: returning to the earth as part of a cycle that sustains life. 🌿Grasmere Cemetery at Rhinebeck Cemetery (hybrid) - Rhinebeck, NY The Natural Burial Ground at the Town of Rhinebeck Cemetery was opened in 2014 and is only the second municipal natural burial ground in New York State. It is nestled back from historic Mill Road, adjacent to the Grasmere section of the cemetery, and is set in a young hardwood forest on land that once served as pasture to the Grasmere Estate. 🌿Sleepy Hollow Cemetery (hybrid) - Sleepy Hollow, NY Sleepy Hollow Cemetery, that “Sleepy” place which serves as the backdrop to Washington Irving’s short story, “The Legend of Sleepy Hollow”, is largely just that – a quiet and sleepy resting place where little seems to ever change. Following the Pocantico River as it meanders through the pristine terrain of the cemetery, one feels like they are in a place lost in a time long gone. One can easily imagine Ichabod Crane following this very path in the legendary story. Yet, this timeless gem in Westchester County, New York is actually among the most progressive and forward thinking cemeteries in the United States. For in the opening of the “Riverview Natural Burial Grounds”, Sleepy Hollow Cemetery has become part of a very small and elite group of burial places in the country, which afford the deceased a “natural” or “green” burial option. 🌿White Haven Memorial Park (hybrid) - Pittsford, NY White Haven Memorial park has a special area Certified by the Green Burial Council. This area is specifically for full body burial with no vault, no casket and no cremation. The body is placed in a biodegradable container or cloth shroud. There is one embalming solution that is certified by the Green Burial Council, which is made up of essential oils vs. toxic chemicals. The goal is to allow the body to return to the soil naturally. Graves are double the width since there are no vaults or caskets used. This helps keep the integrity of each burial. 🌿Holy Sepulchre (hybrid) - Rochester, NY In 2013, Holy Sepulchre Cemetery & Ascension Garden became the first Catholic cemeteries in New York State to earn Green Burial Council Certification as approved providers of green burial grounds. Only after extensive ecological assessments and formal application was this honor bestowed. The certification furthers the commitment of Holy Sepulchre & Ascension Garden to the environment, and provides beautiful, natural surroundings while meeting the highest standards of the cemetery industry. 🌿Ascension Garden Cemetery (hybrid) - Henrietta, NY In 2013, Holy Sepulchre Cemetery & Ascension Garden became the first Catholic cemeteries in New York State to earn Green Burial Council Certification as approved providers of green burial grounds. Only after extensive ecological assessments and formal application was this honor bestowed. The certification furthers the commitment of Holy Sepulchre & Ascension Garden to the environment, and provides beautiful, natural surroundings while meeting the highest standards of the cemetery industry. 🌿Forest Hill Cemetery @ Forest Lawn (hybrid) - Attica, NY At the Forest Lawn Group, we’re proud to offer green burial options for families who want to honor their loved ones while caring for the environment. Our green burials use biodegradable materials and avoid harmful chemicals, helping to conserve natural resources, reduce carbon emissions, protect worker health, and restore natural habitats. We adhere to the Green Burial Council’s guidance and certification. At Forest Hill Cemetery, Phelps’ Meadow offers a field of natural burial lots with a large shared permanent memorial stone at the foot of the field to record individual names in the meadow. 🌿 Lakeside Cemetery in Hamburg, NY At the Forest Lawn Group, we’re proud to offer green burial options for families who want to honor their loved ones while caring for the environment. Our green burials use biodegradable materials and avoid harmful chemicals, helping to conserve natural resources, reduce carbon emissions, protect worker health, and restore natural habitats. We adhere to the Green Burial Council’s guidance and certification.At Lakeside Cemetery, The Oaks offers a natural burial section with a traditional memorial marker for each grave. If your area doesn’t yet have a dedicated green or conservation burial ground, start by approaching the trustees or managers of local cemeteries with curiosity and respect. Ask if they’ve considered setting aside a section for vault-free burials or revising their bylaws to allow shrouded or biodegradable caskets. Highlight that New York already has several successful examples, such as Greensprings Natural Cemetery Preserve and Sleepy Hollow’s hybrid section, that demonstrate how natural burial can exist with traditional practices. By sharing data on growing public interest and the ecological benefits, you can help your local cemetery become part of New York’s evolving legacy of sustainability and remembrance. If you want information on how to start your own natural burial cemetery, or you want to make me aware of another green, natural, or hybrid cemetery in this state, please reach out!
November 6, 2025
North Carolina From the misty Blue Ridge Mountains to the pine forests and coastal plains, North Carolina’s landscape speaks to a deep and enduring relationship with nature. Here, green burial isn’t just an environmental choice—it’s a continuation of the Southern tradition of family, faith, and respect for the earth. Families are rediscovering that a natural burial, free from embalming and metal caskets, offers a more intimate and meaningful farewell. Whether resting beneath native wildflowers or beneath the canopy of longleaf pines, green burial in North Carolina brings renewal to both land and spirit. 🌿Carolina Memorial Sanctuary - Mills River, NC Nestled in Mills River, just south of Asheville, Carolina Memorial Sanctuary is a breathtaking 11-acre conservation burial ground where people, wildlife, and the land coexist in perfect harmony. Certified by the Green Burial Council, it’s North Carolina’s first conservation burial ground, permanently protected and managed as a nature preserve. Carolina Memorial Sanctuary requires no embalming, vaults, or metal caskets. Every burial uses biodegradable materials, and graves are dug by hand to preserve the land’s integrity. Visitors find meadows of wildflowers, stands of native trees, and pollinators moving gently through the open fields. Each burial restores the ecosystem, turning grief into growth. As a conservation burial ground, every interment directly supports land protection. The Sanctuary partners with environmental organizations to ensure that this land will always remain undeveloped and ecologically healthy. Its stewardship model means burials are part of a larger cycle of preservation and renewal. The Sanctuary invites family participation, offering a quiet, sacred experience that fosters connection with both loved ones and the earth. Visitors can walk winding trails or sit in refle ction by the river, surrounded by the sounds of nature. 🌿Bluestem Conservation Cemetery - Cedar Grove, NC Set among 87 acres of rolling meadows, forests, and wetlands in Cedar Gro ve, Bluestem Conservation Cemetery offers a breathtaking return to the land, a place where remembrance and restoration are one. Certified by the Green Burial Council, Bluestem is a true conservation burial ground, ensuring that every interment contributes to the protection and regeneration of North Carolina’s native landscape. At Bluestem, graves are dug by hand and filled without vaults, embalming, or metal caskets. Each burial uses biodegradable materials, allowing the body to return fully to the soil. Families are invited to participate in the burial process, creating a deeply personal and sacred farewell. Every burial helps conserve the property in partnership with the Triangle Land Conservancy , guaranteeing that the land will never be developed. The cemetery’s open fields and forested paths provide vital habitats for wildlife, pollinators, and native plants turning grief into growth with each passing season. 🌿 A Place of Peace and Purpose Visitors describe Bluestem as both grounding and inspiring — a landscape where beauty and biodiversity coexist with reflection and remembrance. It’s a place for those who wish to return to the earth in a way that sustains it. 🌿Mordecai’s Meadow at Historic Oakwood Cemetery (hybrid) - Raleigh, NC In the Spring of 2016, Oakwood Cemetery opened Mordecai’s Meadow, a green burial section located in the North West section of Oakwood Cemetery. Green Burial is simple and natural. It reunites our bodies with the earth using biodegradable caskets, no embalming fluids, and no concrete or metal vaults. It allows the cycle of nature to be completed, ashes to ashes, dust to dust. Mordecai’s Meadow at Historic Oakwood Cemetery will allow members of our community, who wish to “return to the earth” to do so in a peaceful, yet urban, environment, surrounded by generations of Raleigh citizens who passed before them. Oakwood is returning to it’s roots, and offering a burial option that looked much like the original burials here at Oakwood in the 1860s. As we return to the “traditional” way of burial with this section, the name Mordecai’s Meadow was inspired by the original burials at Oakwood Cemetery and the previous landowners of our grounds, the Mordecai family. If you want information on how to start your own natural burial cemetery, or you want to make me aware of another green, natural, or hybrid cemetery in this state, please reach out!
November 6, 2025
Ohio Ohio’s gentle hills and ancient forests hold a long history of reverence for the land, making it a natural place for the green burial movement to take root. Many Ohioans are rediscovering the simplicity and beauty of returning the body to the earth without chemical interference or concrete barriers. Whether in rural meadows or wooded preserves, families across the state are seeking options that align with both their environmental values and their spiritual sense of continuity with the land. Green burial here honors the rhythm of nature, allowing each life to nourish what comes next. 🌿Foxfield Preserve - Wilmot, OH Nestled within the protected forests of the Wilderness Center in Wilmot, Foxfield Preserve is Ohio’s first conservation burial ground — and one of the earliest in the nation. Since 2008, it has offered families a way to lay loved ones to rest in harmony with nature, where every burial supports land preservation and wildlife habitat. 🌿 A Living Sanctuary At Foxfield, burials are entirely natural: no embalming, no vaults, no metal caskets. Graves are dug by hand, and biodegradable caskets or shrouds allow each body to return gently to the soil. Families are encouraged to participate in the burial process, creating an intimate, meaningful farewell. 🌿 Conservation in Action Each interment directly contributes to the care and protection of over 1,000 acres of The Wilderness Center’s woodlands and prairies. The preserve’s wildflowers, songbirds, and native trees form a living memorial — proof that death can nurture new life. 🌿 Education and Advocacy Foxfield doesn’t just offer burials — it also teaches. Through tours and workshops, the preserve educates the public about natural burial and sustainability, inspiring other communities across the Midwest to follow suit. 🌿Heritage Acres Memorial - Cincinnati, OH In the rolling hills just east of Cincinnati, Heritage Acres Memorial Sanctuary offers a peaceful, natural resting place where people can return to the earth in the most life-giving way possible. Spanning 40 acres of meadows, woodlands, and walking trails, this Green Burial Council–certified sanctuary is both a cemetery and a nature preserve — a place where grief and growth intertwine. 🌿 A Sanctuary for All Heritage Acres welcomes people of all faiths, cultures, and backgrounds. Every burial is free of vaults, embalming, and metal caskets — instead using biodegradable shrouds or caskets to allow the body to decompose naturally and nourish the land. Families are invited to participate in the burial process, creating a deeply personal experience. 🌿 Restoring the Land Each interment at Heritage Acres supports native plant restoration and wildlife habitat. Visitors are greeted by open skies, wildflowers, and the hum of pollinators — a living memorial that continually renews itself with each season. 🌿 Community and Care The Sanctuary is sustained by volunteers and community members who share a commitment to sustainability, reverence, and simplicity. Education, guided tours, and events help others learn about green burial and its role in ecological healing. 🌿Kokosing Nature Preserve - Gambier, OH In Gambier, Ohio, Kokosing Nature Preserve brings together land conservation, education, and natural burial in a way that’s both deeply personal and profoundly ecological. Managed by Kenyon College’s Philander Chase Conservancy , this 23-acre preserve offers families a chance to rest in peace while supporting the permanent protection of the land. 🌿 Burial in Balance Kokosing allows only biodegradable caskets or shrouds, with no vaults or embalming. Graves are carefully dug by hand, and families can take part in the burial process, connecting body, land, and legacy. Each burial is a return to the soil — simple, sacred, and sustainable. 🌿 A Conservation Mission All proceeds from the cemetery support Kenyon College’s conservation work, helping preserve hundreds of acres of farmland and forest in the Kokosing River Valley. The preserve serves as both a resting place and a living classroom, where students and visitors can learn about ecology, end-of-life sustainability, and stewardship. 🌿 A Living Legacy Set amid meadows and woodlands, Kokosing Nature Preserve is a model for how green burial and higher education can coexist — honoring those who’ve passed while teaching future generations about the cycles of life and the importance of protecting the earth. 🌿 Glen Forest Cemetery - Yellow Springs, OH In the Ozark foothills of eastern Oklahoma, Glen Forest Cemetery offers families a peaceful, natural place to return to the earth. Surrounded by woodlands and wildlife, this certified hybrid green cemetery is one of the first in the state to welcome both traditional and fully natural burials — giving Oklahomans meaningful choices rooted in simplicity and sustainability. 🌿 A Place of Peace Green burials at Glen Forest are free from embalming, metal caskets, and vaults. Loved ones are laid to rest in biodegradable caskets or shrouds, allowing the body to decompose naturally and nourish the surrounding forest. Families can take part in the process, creating a hands-on and heartfelt farewell. 🌿 Hybrid Flexibility As a hybrid cemetery, Glen Forest accommodates both conventional and natural burials — so families with different wishes can still rest together in one place. The cemetery’s green section blends seamlessly into the native landscape, maintained with minimal disturbance and no synthetic chemicals. 🌿 A Natural Legacy With its wooded setting and commitment to ecological care, Glen Forest stands as a model for what’s possible in Oklahoma. It shows that conservation and compassion can coexist, offering a resting place that honors both people and the planet.  🌿Union Grove Cemetery (hybrid) - Canal Winchester, OH No information online other than green is allowed. If your community doesn’t yet have a designated green burial section, you can still help create one. Start by approaching local cemetery boards or sextons to discuss setting aside a portion of existing grounds for natural burials. Present examples from nearby states or Ohio conservation initiatives to illustrate community interest and environmental benefits. Ask about bylaws regarding vaults and embalming, many can be waived through board approval. By initiating a thoughtful, respectful conversation, you can help your local cemetery evolve into a more sustainable resting place for future generations. If you want information on how to start your own natural burial cemetery, or you want to make me aware of another green, natural, or hybrid cemetery in this state, please reach out!